Autistics children require playtime to feel easy and relaxed. After all, this is the time when they can finally go run around in their own little world.
For their parents, however, playtime only seems to remind them about how very different their child is from the rest. It can give some the uncomfortable feeling that they will never really ‘see’ what it is like living in their child’s world.
Fortunately, it does not have to be that depressing when you know that playtime for autistics does operate on some very basic needs that they generally have.
As a parent, one can always show a healthy amount of concern if a child’s autism leads them to become obsessed with playing certain games or being engrossed in doing certain activities. For some, it can be a certain sign of play addiction that can make it difficult to disengage and do other necessary things in life (such as eating, hygiene, sleep etc).
On the other hand, the best way to tackle this concern is to first understand why autistics can be so easily engaged and engrossed.
People on the spectrum devote themselves heavily to these activities because it gives them a strong sense of control and predictability. For instance, they play with their favourite toys because they always expect these toys to work or feel a certain way. If it’s a hobby, it is likely because the hobby gives them more control than they do in other areas of their life (say, perhaps, their studies or even talking to people).
By knowing this need for predictability and control, you can have an easier time developing strategies that help them when they are feeling distressed.
Autistics are also well-known for having a number of different sensory issues. And while each one can be very distinct (like one could have issues with taste, another with smell and then another with touch etc), these challenges do draw them towards highly stimulating activities or experiences.
That is why parents should be just as sensitive to this attraction when it comes to things like stimming toys, smelling games and other activities popular with children on the spectrum. It bears repeating that each child has different sensory needs, so finding the right item or experience is a big deal.
Another thing to keep in mind is that this need for stimulation is actually a great way to encourage autistics to explore the world around them. They may not experience everything the same way normal people can, but any playtime game that gets them up and going beyond their comfort zone is generally a good one!
Finally, despite how differently wired an autistic’s brain might be, it is worth pointing out that many of them still have the same desires for motivation and fulfilment as regular people. They may not express this desire well, but it is there.
If you have to remember just one reason why playtime is important for any child, it is the fact that the feeling of reward is vital to their development. Fun activities that give a feeling of satisfaction can give even an autistic child the motivation to do anything better.
Otherwise, they will see less reason to pursue any goal (whether it is to learn a new skill, do well in school, behave better with others etc).
To summarise, playtime for autistic kids does not have to make parents feel they’re watching their child leave to a different planet. There are very basic, simple ways to understand what goes through their minds when they enjoy themselves.
And by having that understanding, you can also come up with better ways to join in on their fun!
If you need any advice or support, then know that we at the Australian Tomatis Method are still here to help you. Please reach out if you need to, either by email at info@tomatis.com.au or by phone to Francoise at 0414 444 915.
Official Representative of Tomatis Developpement SA in Australia, Asia and South Pacific, Director of the Australian Tomatis® Method, Registered Psychologist, Certified Tomatis® Consultant Senior, Tomatis® International Trainer and Speaker, Co-author of the Listening Journey Series, 40 Years of Experience, Neurodiversity Speaker
