How We Can Help Confidence and Self-Esteem

Most of you know about the effects of sound, in changing your mood for example, but research has also shown that music can raise or lower your blood pressure, affect your muscular energy, change your metabolism, influence your digestion and have a powerful effect on your emotions and behaviour.

The Tomatis® Method utilises a neuro-sensory approach and bases itself on the relationship which exists between the ear and the voice, between listening and communication. Listening requires attention and emotion. However, we also recognise that many people have weaknesses in their ability to process sound and this affects them in a multitude of ways.

Therefore, the Tomatis® Method works with people of all ages to process incoming sound more effectively than they usually do. Listening skills are sharpened through exercises done under the Electronic Ear and the TalksUp® device. You get to repeat words and sentences aloud too (during the active phase). The Electronic Ear enhances the higher harmonics in the voice before feeding it back to your ears.

The idea that the ear plays a crucial role in communication, in social and psychological development is a unique one, first researched and highlighted by Dr. Alfred Tomatis, who is now considered to be the pioneer of the use of sound stimulation to re-educate the ear to improve learning and language abilities, communication, creativity and social behaviour.

Specifically, we work with people both on the emotional end of overcoming the fear and anxiety of public speaking as well as on making the experience of public speaking effective and enjoyable. Our unique method of optimising listening skills creates a template for you to create positive and skilful presentations.

Researchers agree that self-esteem is best developed during one’s early childhood years. It is at this stage where the child’s brain develops most. However, if the child is exposed to abuse, criticism, no positive reinforcement, and other violent environments, he/she may miss out experiences that would supposedly foster their sense of confidence and self-esteem. Find a therapist from our roster of professionals who can help you, your child or someone you know today!

If you or your child suffers from lack of confidence and low self-esteem, book your 20 minutes FREE chat valued at $125 with our expert.

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Take a look at the differences between confidence and self-esteem below:

Confidence and self-esteem are crucial to every individual’s personal development. However, people with learning difficulties and other developmental disorders are often subjected to unfavorable circumstances resulting to low confidence and self-esteem.


A child with Autism, for example, would find it difficult to connect and relate to his teachers and peers in school. An adult with Auditory Processing Disorder (APD) would not be able to properly understand his/her co-workers and managers at work. These issues on their cognitive and social skills are going to be stressful for them.

In response, the child would not participate in class discussions, avoid homework at night or take long hours to do it, and in the long run, hate going to school. The adult may have frequent misunderstandings with his/her co-workers and probably, lose his job.

These circumstances can really take a huge toll on their confidence and self-esteem. They would start to think that they are “not good enough” or they “cannot do it at all”.

They avoid facing the challenges because they do not trust their abilities because they fear to fail. They would, later on, choose to stay on the sides or at the back to avoid further interactions.

Confidence and self-esteem loss can take a huge toll on someone’s life. See if your child or someone you know has these signs:

  1. Bouts of feeling depressed, anxious, ashamed, or angry
  2. Pessimistic towards oneself and ignoring one’s achievements
  3. Thinking other people are better than you
  4. Your actions are grounded on what other people thin
  5. Hiding one’s mistakes and hoping you can fix the problem before anyone notices
  6. Dismissing compliments
  7. Extremely critical towards oneself
  8. Thinking oneself is inferior to their peers and other acquaintances
  9. Assumes luck in all their achievements and does not usually take credit for them
  10. Negative self-talk and often downplays their positive qualities

These and other signs that imply negativity inwards are all signs of low confidence and self-esteem.

Having low confidence and self-esteem can reduce one’s quality of life. It has been closely associated with the following experiences/ conditions:

  1. Fear of trying
  2. Perfectionism
  3. Low resilience
  4. Pessimism
  5. Relationship problems
  6. Fear of trying
  7. Self-inflicting behaviours
  8. Fatigue or powerlessness
  9. Depression
  10. Codependency

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The Tomatis® Method is definitely the best gift to you or your child! Contact Françoise Nicoloff or any of the Tomatis® professionals in Australia to get started today!

Does your child or someone you know exhibit the following struggles?

If many of the troubles apply to you or your child, you or your child may have a listening dysfunction. Use this form to select any difficulties that apply to you and then fill in your contact details if you would like to speak with us.